But there are two ex-boyfriends who hold a special place in my heart because even though I know it could never work between us, I recognize the impact we each had in each other's lives.I would be happy if they found new happiness, but it would be too odd if it were with a close friend of mine." This is the status I was greeted with this week on the Facebook page of one of my dear girlfriends.My knee-jerk response was "Duh, who wouldn't be pissed?" Oddly enough, after viewing some of the discussion on the comment thread, I realized that my judgment might have been a little harsh.I'm not trying to generalize, but most of my female friends talk about past boyfriends, dissecting why their relationships didn't work.In time, I am usually content to be "acquaintances with history," exchanging an email every once in a while or having friendly drinks with the exes that I still respect. Here are six rules for making that awkward transition from lovers to friends. Mourning period: Give each other time to mourn the death of the relationship.But that's only after time has passed and I've removed the rose-colored glasses that I used to gaze at him through. The longer you two were together, the longer it will probably take before you are ready for friendship.
You don't want them back, but you don't want to keep being reminded of what could have been.The second factor, which may seem contradictory, is that it depends on how much you invested in and loved the ex-boyfriend.I can honestly say there are some ex-boyfriends that, if they find happiness, God bless them, because I know it was crazy between us.Editor's note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN.Her experiences in the dating world inspire her "Relationship Rant" column.