And while many would look at our situation and consider the single girl the “loser”, I found myself celebratory and proud of the individual places we had found ourselves.
And now that I have a son of my own and a family of my own, I am able to take what I learned from this dating experience and apply it to the relationship I now share with the man of my dreams.
The exact quote was “if you’ve mourned, if you’ve healed, if you’ve made peace – then you’re ready whenever you say you’re ready.” Allow me to correct myself. I have a client who went out with a man who was separated. On the other hand, you’ve heard tales of men who went seamlessly from one relationship to another without a break.
It wasn’t a question of whether he and his wife were going to divorce – the relationship was toxic, the lawyers were in place, it was definitely over. They were well-matched and perfectly adorable together. You can listen to all these stories, but they won’t inform YOUR situation.
I am a better woman because I went through the experience of dating a man who was going through a divorce.
Currently, I am using online dating to meet new prospects, though I choose not to date anyone who is going through divorce.
I was genuinely happy for him and the second chance they both found.
I was genuinely excited for the son they shared, and his ability to wake up to mom and dad every morning.
Because of these contradictions, you have to do a reality check and assess whether a) he’s invested in you as a long-term partner, or b) whether you’re his transitional woman as he segues into single life.I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.Also, it seems that about 40% of the men who state they are divorced are actually still going through the process. That stated, I have come up to some heavy objection from both family and friends – hence I’m here.While he contemplated all the choices he made and the failures he experienced and the happiness he once felt, I was left in the dark; incapable of comprehending just how difficult that limbo is and was.love with his estranged wife, he would always love her.