This is hard for most women to understand because women can switch from one task to the next and back again with much more ease.
We get a lot of questions that go something like: “I’m really confused, my boyfriend says he’s crazy about me and I’m the most amazing/wonderful/smart/funny/etc girl he’s ever dated but he always blows me off and he can’t hang out and doesn’t have time to talk on the phone or text back or take me out on dates and I really only see him late at night when he feels like it.” OK, maybe not exactly like that, but close enough.
Don’t despair – I have a little secret that is sure to perk you up: men – yes, those creatures who are so often the bane of our very existence, the ones who puzzle us and tear us apart inside, the ones that cause so much grief but always keep us coming back for more – are not all that difficult to understand.
In fact, I think I have an easier time explaining why men do things than I do with women.
Men intuitively know that words are important to women.
The trick is to do it in a way that’s encouraging, not one that’s threatening, demanding, or nagging.You might be thinking: “But I always tell him what I want and he still doesn’t do it!I tell him all the time to bring me flowers and call me more and take me out and nothing changes!This doesn’t mean you have a great and profound relationship, it doesn’t really mean … MORE- Ask a Guy: When a Guy Doesn’t Text Back Guys don’t think about relationships as often as women do. It doesn’t mean they don’t care; it’s just not a central point of focus.Countless studies have shown that women primarily gain their sense of worth and self-esteem through their interpersonal relationships while men measure their worth based on their ability to have an impact in the world and contribute in a meaningful way.