It’s a basic motivation, but it’s often easier for him to seduce someone he’s already been with than someone new.
If he’s bored and wants to get some, you’re a potential possibility, especially if he can feel you out over text message from the comfort of his couch on Sunday night.
For example, at one point I met this guy named James.
In between non-love connection dates, James and I shared American Psycho jokes over text message.
Here are some signs that might indicate that you are dating a psychopath. You might get mad at people for trying to convince you to break up with your partner, or make excuses for your partner because you are convinced that you are the only one that understands him or her. He or she feels entitled to act the way that they do.
You might try to talk about how you are feeling–your partner turns everything around and tries to talk about everything you’re doing wrong. Even when they hurt you, they make you feel bad for the pain it has caused them. They often don’t actually feel guilty about what they have done, only that they were caught. Other people might warn you about dating your partner–if they have a track record of abuse, most likely it is only a matter of time until they abuse you. Your friends and family wish that you would break up.
Often his actions aren’t much more premeditated than a simple idle thought about you, then subsequent text message.
He might say something funny or make an inside joke that you both shared.
Once he realizes that “sowing his oats” wasn’t everything it was cracked up to be, he comes crawling back hoping for an ego boost or potential reconciliation.
Men are more sensitive than women– even though they will never, ever admit it..
Keep in mind that no matter why he came back months later, it’s best to take a wait and see approach with him– especially if you liked him the first time around. there are the tantalizing texts and calls, flirty Facebook messages, and maybe things even get a little intimate… It feels like suddenly something snaps in him, and he starts to withdraw… To make things worse, if it’s happened once, it’s usually happened before.
You know how some song or smell will randomly remind you of an ex? Like an itch that needs scratching, something will make him think of you and then all of a sudden, there he is, saying “hey… ” He might also want you back or it could be a total fluke. It’s frustrating because it’s usually after you’ve really made an effort to exorcise your ex from your life.
Men will also use this an excuse to talk to you after a breakup when they miss you. This reason sucks, but it’s actually pretty common.